In some cases, people who seek therapy are searching for something that will make them “happy” or “happier” compared to their current way of being. The issue with searching for happiness is that “happiness” is not typically something we can pin-point and acquire so easily. In order to discover happiness, we need to look even deeper and break it down.
The real question here is, what makes you happy? There are many things we do, some we don’t even notice, that make us laugh or smile or feel connected.
To find happiness, is to identify those smaller pieces that enhance our feeling of joy in the moment. In order to do that, we need to be mindful. We need to stay present in the moment and notice when we feel pleasure, joy, envy, sadness, anger, fear. Its important to be able to label and identify our emotions. If we can notice more and more those moments and recognize the feeling it elicits, we can hold on to that and reproduce it. If we strive to “be happier” and yet we don’t even know what happiness means, were going to fall short. Our expectation will not be met and we will feel ashamed, unsuccessful, unworthy, etc. I encourage you all to begin to notice your feelings. Do you know what an emotion looks like? Feels like? Can you label that feeling?
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